Dating can be a lot of fun. You get to meet a lot of interesting individuals, learn new things, and explore new places. On a whole, I’ve had a positive experience when dating. That said, it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. One of the hardest parts of dating is dealing with rejection, and I’m not sure I handle it well. So why not blog about it?
I’ve recently been out on a few dates with a woman. For those of you reading my other posts, I’m speaking of the pole dancer. In total, we went out on 4 dates, and had a pretty good time on each. The last date involved us hanging out at her place and cuddling in bed talking about life. It was nice. We made plan to hang out again.
On a whole, I was not overly into this woman. Not yet anyway. It takes me awhile to get excited about a date, and this girl, though great in a lot of ways, was not exactly what I pictured when I thought of my perfect match, so I wasn’t sure I’d keep seeing her. Still, I didn’t want to cut it off yet because there was a potential for potential, you know?
Anyway, this is a story about rejection, so I’m sure you see where I’m going with this: A day before our next schedule date, she sent me a text saying that she no longer wished to see me and that she wished me luck with everything. My response? “Oh. Okay. All the best!” What else is there to say?
As I mentioned, I was not overly into this girl. Yes, there seemed to be potential, but even before her text I was thinking of sending something similar, so I wasn’t attached. Yet as soon as I received that text, I was automatically put into a foul mood. So much so that I decided to settle down and write this post to get my feelings out.
It sucks getting rejected. It doesn’t matter if it’s for something that matters little to you, or something that’s extremely important, rejection is going to sting. It’s going to make you upset, you’re going to question why you were rejected, and you’re going to torture yourself about that rejection for the next little while (or, long while, depending on the situation). I do everything I can to not become overly attached when dating to minimize the sting, and yet here I sit, wishing she’d text me again saying something along the lines of “just kidding!”
Thing is, this happens a lot when dating. Yes, there are upsides to dating, but sometimes the rejection can really cut you deep. You question why you keep going out on dates and you become slightly more bitter with each rejection. I’m a strong person. I’ll handle this rejection just like I’ve handled all the rejections before. I’ll pick myself up, brush myself off, meet new people, learn new things, and explore new places. But I won’t be the same person I was before the rejection. Each rejection, no matter if it’s personal or professional, changes you. The rejection is the cost of learning, and although I’d rather not pay that price again, I guess I’ll deal. I kind of have to.